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san diego family photographer | what our everyday looks like | july 2012

I’ve been lucky to have met so many incredibly talented and wonderful photographers during this journey.  People who share the same desire to capture their own families in a real and beautiful way.  I’m teaming up with twelve of these women on a very personal and meaningful project called, “What ________ Looks Like.”

Our goal is to capture our own families in a real and beautiful way.  Some people call it “lifestyle”, some call it “real life”, some call it “unposed”.  No matter what you call it, our desire is to snatch the moments that represent the relationships, the dynamics, the reality, the beauty, the truth, and the life of our families and record them here on our blogs as well as in print at the end of the project.

Each month we will each choose to fill in the blank with our word of choice.  Some of us may choose to use the same word all year and some may choose to change it up each month.  We will each link to the next photographer until our circle is complete.

We hope this project inspires you to take more pictures of your own families so that those unique moments that make your family unique will never be lost or forgotten.Wendy VonSosen.

It’s our 1 year anniversary of this project!  I’m so thrilled to be able to share it with so many of my favorite photographers that inspire me every month.  Thank you for following along with our story!  xoxo

This month I challenged myself to take an image a day to share for this post.  I wanted to pull out many of the lenses that I don’t use very often just to mix things up and also to work on shooting at any time of day.  Many, if not most of these were shot in full sun which is a huge change from always trying to shoot in the golden hour.  It was a great adventure and I’m so glad I completed the month.  I was able to capture many of these images simply because I had my camera with me.  Always.  I had a different mind set and looked for things differently.  So glad I did!!  Here is our story of July 2012.

Dear sweet Brooks,

You’ve been quite a challenge this month.  You’ve been pushing, questioning, and challenging me every step of the way.  I’ve heard ‘I hate you’ way more often than ‘I love you’.  At night, you usually refused a kiss goodnight, so I waited until you were asleep to lay next to you for a hug and a kiss.  Then I would lay my hands on you and simply pray … for you and for us.

Thanks to two sweet, wise friends (love you Carey and Hope), I poured through the book, The Strong Willed Child (that Hope so sweetly gifted to me) and slowly got a better grasp of how to work with and respond to you.  It took tears (from both of us) and prayers, but we are now on a much better track.  Soon I will have my sweet, loving boy back and I can’t wait!

I’m looking forward to enjoying the last few weeks of summer with you!  It’s not long before you become a second grader.  🙂

This month is day by day glimpse into our everyday…


-so happy to fish sit for Trevor’s new little fish .. you loved the responsibility.

-your favorite tradition when we are at nordstroms … tomato basil soup … finger licking good.

-a lazy day at the pool with Phoebe and Noah.

-after marching in the 4th of July parade with friends from school (to celebrate being a CA Distinguished School), you took a quiet moment to watch the end of the parade.

-a little pampering before the cut.

-somehow lunch turned into an ant castle being dive bombed by strawberry missiles.

-from the thrill of victory to the agony of defeat.  This was your first tournament with your Avenger team.  Your team (6 and 7 years old) were playing against bigger, stronger and faster 8 and 9 year olds.  In the first game, your team came back from 0-2 to win 3-2 … so exciting to watch your team play.  The second game brought a very tired (and a major meltdown from you) team that was SMOKED 10-0!  There was just no way your little goalie could stop the power behind their kicks.

-you wrapped up the tournament with another loss, but I couldn’t have been more proud of the way your team played.  You have an exciting season ahead of you!!  For this game, you spent the first half as goalie and totally killed it … so aggressive and no fear!  It was so much fun to watch you charge and just go for it!

-back at the pool with sweet Phoebe … love the silly friendship you to have had since you were babies.

-ever since I started the summer a day photo, you wanted me to get a picture of you sleeping so your pillow (aka … Big Bear) could be in the picture with you.  You LOVE this stinky, ratty pillow so much.  During snuggle time, I refuse to lay my head anywhere near it, so it stays in a special place until your’e ready to sleep.  We both know that Big Bear will be going to pillow heaven as soon as we can find a replacement for him.

-on July 1st we started a project based on a book called Cleaning House.  It’s a month by month project to help teach you responsibility and life skills.  The first month tackled the bedroom … for us that meant every morning by 7:30, your bed is made and your room is totally clean with no stacks.  You LOVE this project and keep your room meticulously clean always.  Now you love to relax and enjoy how nice your room looks.

-both you and Cohen were going to be out of town for Dylan’s party so you two helped him celebrate on his actual birthday.  You 3 have been the best of friends since the beginning of kindergarden and even though you were all in different first grade classes last year, you found one another every single day at recess and lunch.  Due to busy vacation plans, this was the first time all summer the 3 of you had a chance to get together.  You and Cohen jumped up and down and screamed like girls when Dylan opened the door.

-with only 30 minutes of electronic time (tv/netflix/computer) most days, your very early mornings often started with beginning new battles.  As you can see, you weren’t always a fan of your imposed morning play time.

-the characters are by far your favorites of each lego set.  You even keep them in a special basket to keep them easy to find.

-you love that the beach is just a couple blocks away from MomMom’s house in Santa Barbara.  The morning we arrived was the perfect afternoon to go for a quick swim before your cousins came over for dinner.  It always feels so good to be there!

-Sky was happy to help pick the most delicious apples from MomMom’s little tree … they were so so good.

-ever since you were a baby, Douglas Preserve was one of our favorite places to hike.  We hadn’t been there for a few years because Grampy had a tough time walking along the paths.  We took a quick walk and were reminded why we love this place so much.  So many gorgeous trails and interesting places to explore.

-we went to see the jellies and other cool creatures at the Science Center.  You and Sky loved all the hands on activities.

-our ‘just us’ post was due and you refused to take a picture with me, so it ended up being just me for now.  You can be such a stubborn little boy some days!

-you and Sky spent a busy afternoon making mud pies … and of course water must follow.

-on this evening we celebrated Grampy with a beautiful memorial up on the hill with just the family.  You sent a quick prayer up to Grampy before you found the perfect spot to help scatter some of his ashes.  xoxo

-after spending the night before at Sky’s house, the first thing you said when you got home was, ‘I bet Millie missed me’.  Until you get one of your own, you are happy to share Millie with MomMom.  You two are best friends!!

-swim in the waves … roll in the sand … swim in the waves … roll in the sand … swim in the waves …

-finally an image to post for our ‘just us’ … it’s not my favorite, but it’s a quick capture from downtown farmer’s market.

-the stick place.  this little nook, up on the hill in the backyard, belongs all to you.  For the past 6 years, you’ve been collecting sticks from every walk and hike to add to your ‘stick place’.  You spend hours here every day imagining, playing and organizing your sticks.  You have VERY specific piles and ways that the sticks are organized.

-after our longest run (and return walk home) with me, 6 miles total, you were happy to hide out and relax a bit before dinner while watching a show on my phone.

-nothing screams summer (and a great day) more than little wrinkled toes after a swim.

-every night this week, you, Carter and Parker were out playing tag, sticks, and running … just like I used to do with my brothers and sister when we were kids … for hours, until the sun went down and you were called in.  I know this will be your best memory of the summer.

-I love how you roll up just one side of your shorts and wear your little Spiderman bandaid to protect your owie that you acquired from one of your wild games of tag with your cousins.

-just before we were leaving to go swim, I came downstairs and you were dancing and cheering all around the living room with your little flag, watching the USA women play volleyball.  I raced upstairs and grabbed the camera but by the time I returned, you were simply watching the game.  I still wanted to capture you and your flag to remember this funny little thing.  🙂

-you were thrilled to head out to Target today to spend the money your earned from doing your job so well every day.  When you combined the ‘cleaning house’ money with your tooth fairy money, you proudly had $41 to spend and it took you a total of 2 minutes to pick out exactly what you wanted.  Here you are with the biggest of the characters from the hero factory.

I hope this is a reminder to you just how magical your everyday moments really are.  You are loved and blessed!


Be sure to continue on with my dear friend  Wendy VonSosen | San Francisco Bay Area Photographer.


If you missed the beginning, you can catch up on…
What Responsibility Looks Like
What the Last Days of Summer Looks Like
What Almost 7 Looks Like
What Making Memories Looks Like
What December Traditions Looks Like
What The Magic Of First Grade Looks Like

What Being a Tourist in My Own City Looks Like
What Easter Looks Like
What Remembering Looks Like
What A Day At The Fair Looks Like

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July 30, 2012 - 7:27 am

amy grace - oh jules, what a full and beautiful picture of how your life really is right now. i love every one, the collection, the project in itself. you and your little one are so lucky to have each other. just lovely.

July 30, 2012 - 8:00 am

leah - what a beautiful month. so proud of you for taking a photo every day! always love to see your posts.

July 30, 2012 - 8:16 am

tamsen - wow- what a beautiful way to show a month of summer holidays! i can feel the childish joys and freedoms, and also the tired, not so happy moments! Your work is always stunning Jules, even when your subject is not so willing! Hoping and praying that things will be better by the time school starts! XO

July 30, 2012 - 9:13 am

Wendy - Jules, B is so blessed to have you as his mom. These posts are precious and such a beautiful way of documenting his childhood. And honestly, I’m relieved to hear that even B has a stubborn streak and it’s not just my littles. I”m a little in love with the Lego pics in BW. The lighting is gorgeous and evokes a feeling of quiet, calm, and peace. Beautiful!

July 30, 2012 - 10:23 am

deb schwedhelm - your photos and your words each month take my breath away. so beautiful!!!

July 30, 2012 - 11:13 am

Sarah C - I LOVE these all! Seriously incredible that you got so many special memories. I am SO bad at remebering to take my camera out all the time and I have been using instagram SO much lately. Your little man is beautiful and he looks SO much like you!! And thank you so much for including me in this project girly! SUCH a honor for me to be among all you talented ladies!

July 30, 2012 - 1:30 pm

shalonda - wow i am speechless jules….i love every single shot

July 30, 2012 - 1:58 pm

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July 30, 2012 - 5:41 pm

Christina - I just put the house cleaning book in my shopping cart thanks to you! The strong willed child book might be next 😉 My boys are a handful, too. My oldest said he hated me last weekend. Oh…how that breaks a momma’s heart. Despite the struggles, your blog post just pours out love for Brooks!!!

August 1, 2012 - 8:06 am

christy w. - You are such an inspiration to me on so many levels Jules! Your honesty, your dedication…to B and to your art. Picking up the camera everyday no matter what, is SO hard and you did amazing. Raising a spirited/strong willed child is even harder. I can so relate. You are such a strong and loving momma…I know that B will grow up to be a confidant, wise young man.

August 1, 2012 - 3:07 pm

hope - i love this project jules. your lifestyle pov with brooks is so inspiring. im glad to hear you are seeing improvements. you will soon have your boy back. just a bit of growing pains that’s all.



August 1, 2012 - 3:21 pm

Evi - Love x31. Wow!

August 5, 2012 - 5:43 pm

Lindsey - What a great set of images. These are priceless and what a story they tell. Looks like a great summer and you will always have these to remind you of all the time spent together. Love them!

August 15, 2012 - 7:21 pm

Amy Lucy - Such similar lives we lead with these boys of ours, and so many similar sights in my house — shin guards, legos, army guys all lined up, swimming pools, mini boden shorts. Your images and letters always make me smile. 🙂 Oh and I totally have your striped JCrew shirt in grey. 😉

August 21, 2012 - 7:56 pm

Jennifer - This is a beautiful post. I am inspired by your work and the love you and your son share is so tangible in these photos.